This step in the healing process is more beneficial to you than it is to the person you are forgiving. As you are holding on to unforgiveness, you are emotionally holding on to your pain and all of the bondage that is associated with it. Through self-examination, you can feel the heaviness of pain and unforgiveness. Comparing the thoughts of happiness and peace to the thoughts of pain and adversity, happiness and peace uses a lot less energy to maintain. Maintaining pain and adversity forces you to reexamine your wound and reinforce your negative feelings and thoughts. Maintaining happiness and peace is as easy as positive self-talk about who you are as a person and what things matter most to you. Forgiving others can be as easy or as difficult as you make it. Only you can determine what's most important to you. As I prefer a drama free life, my choice is to forgive and move on. I don't like the idea of someone else having more power over me than I have over myself, which is what happens when we choose unforgiveness. We are allowing that person to have power over us. Unforgiveness also hinders an open and true relationship with God. We cannot request and accept His forgiveness of us if we cannot forgive others. If we are accepting of His daily measure of Grace, we should also offer it to those who have offended us.