While there is an infinite number of reasons and causes of why love hurts, it is a challenge, and some times impossible, to not let the pain from love loss effect the rest of our lives. After that first encounter with loss love, we develop a steel wall around our heart that is specifically designed to shield us from any future heartache. That steel wall blocks out all potential candidates that could possibly cause that same pain again. We vow in our hearts and minds that THAT will NOT happen again. We then turn to unhealthy habits that will solidify our commitment to avoid pain: like sleeping around without any real commitment; half-heartedly hurting others; and not putting our whole heart i

Painful memories can be the source of our negative outlook on life. When situations arise that challenge our happiness, we deal with it based on our previous experiences. Our perception of the outcome defines how we manage it. If our past dictates that we get hurt, we believe the new occurrence will hurt us also. We attempt to ignore the fact that our old wounds cause us to be guarded in our decisions. By all means, as you are facing challenges in your life, you should be careful when deliberating things that have a major impact on your livelihood. But being guarded means that you are viewing your situation from the vantage point of pain. And the bottom line is, your conclusion of the outcom

Pain is the feeling we get when we have a wound. It is a notification or reminder that something out of the normal is occurring. In our physical wounds, we can easily identify the area that has been wounded. It's not always that easy in our emotional wounds. That is because we can walk around for years not recognizing that we are wounded. It sometimes takes something happening to remind us of our wounds. These reminders can come in the form of a situation similar to our previous situation. The reminder can also come in the form of perceiving that someone else has the success that we think we want. I've also found reminders in discussions with friends or loved ones, as they are going through

Offense, infidelity, rejection, oppression, broken trust and abandonment are just a few types of wounds that we can carry around for years, not realizing that they are directing our lives. These wounds are not just caused by romantic relationships; they can also be caused by other types of relationships-e.g., relationships with parents, friends, acquaintances and co-workers. Knowing what type of wounds we have can help us in applying the correct "balm". Most wounds surface, discretely, when we are faced with situations similar to the situation in which we were wounded. They can also surface when the person who hurt us is in our presence. Being overtaken by negative thoughts or feelings can

Physical wounds heal more effectively if they are covered, but emotional wounds heal more effectively if they are uncovered. In both types of wounds, harmful contaminates, or infections, hinder the healing process. Infections cause more damage to the wound than the initial traumatic experience. This is because the healing process has a natural order that begins immediately after the new wound opening occurs. Our body (in physical wounds) and mind (in emotional wounds) begins to repair itself within seconds of impact. Infections impair this natural order, and throws off the healing process.The damage of infections in emotional wounds can cause bitterness, unforgiveness, depression and anxiety