Love is not supposed to hurt. So why does it?
While there is an infinite number of reasons and causes of why love hurts, it is a challenge, and some times impossible, to not let the pain from love loss effect the rest of our lives. After that first encounter with loss love, we develop a steel wall around our heart that is specifically designed to shield us from any future heartache. That steel wall blocks out all potential candidates that could possibly cause that same pain again. We vow in our hearts and minds that THAT
Which direction?
Painful memories can be the source of our negative outlook on life. When situations arise that challenge our happiness, we deal with it based on our previous experiences. Our perception of the outcome defines how we manage it. If our past dictates that we get hurt, we believe the new occurrence will hurt us also. We attempt to ignore the fact that our old wounds cause us to be guarded in our decisions. By all means, as you are facing challenges in your life, you should be car
Reminders...
Pain is the feeling we get when we have a wound. It is a notification or reminder that something out of the normal is occurring. In our physical wounds, we can easily identify the area that has been wounded. It's not always that easy in our emotional wounds. That is because we can walk around for years not recognizing that we are wounded. It sometimes takes something happening to remind us of our wounds. These reminders can come in the form of a situation similar to our previ
What kind of wound is it?
Offense, infidelity, rejection, oppression, broken trust and abandonment are just a few types of wounds that we can carry around for years, not realizing that they are directing our lives. These wounds are not just caused by romantic relationships; they can also be caused by other types of relationships-e.g., relationships with parents, friends, acquaintances and co-workers. Knowing what type of wounds we have can help us in applying the correct "balm". Most wounds surface, d
Infections
Physical wounds heal more effectively if they are covered, but emotional wounds heal more effectively if they are uncovered. In both types of wounds, harmful contaminates, or infections, hinder the healing process. Infections cause more damage to the wound than the initial traumatic experience. This is because the healing process has a natural order that begins immediately after the new wound opening occurs. Our body (in physical wounds) and mind (in emotional wounds) begins