Managing pain, in some form or fashion, is a part of everyday life. How you manage it can determine your outlook on life and how open you are to living it to its fullest. Living life to its fullest means you don't let the pain you've lived through overcome you. Focusing on pain can cause you to feel bitter and distract you from appreciating all of the little things in life that bring you pleasure. Painful memories are sometimes the source of mistrust of others who don't deserve to be mistrusted. If we are reminded of a painful moment, in the midst of a new situation, we immediately react defensively. This reaction is natural for us. In order for us to move forward in our lives, we must be healed from all of our wounds.